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In Career, Contributors, Finances, Health, Lifestyle, Relationships, Spirituality on June 30, 2014 at 07:42

Laura Barboza
At the “tender” age of 28, a wise 30+ year old gentleman by the name of Mr. Oliver once said to me “Your 20s are for learning and your 30s are for living.” Those words impacted me heavily, as I was not only learning a lot at that time in my life, but I was also eager to get past the uncomfortable Saturn Return phase I found myself in. Having just moved literally and diagonally across the US from Miami to Seattle, I was struggling to find emotional balance, professional prosperity and growth amidst a very different culture than my own, with a complete new set of acquaintances, and within a broken economy. I was unemployed, confused, and homesick. Reaching my 30s was an anxious goal as it carried the significance of stability for me, especially after Mr. Oliver’s words circled in my mind daily. I was embracing the learning lessons, but I really just wanted to live!
To cope with the many changes I was experiencing, I turned to yoga and was successfully reaching an internal depth and awareness I would have never expected to achieve so suddenly. I began to spiritually reach towards a higher self while attempting to get through the daily challenge of the emotional and mental transience I was inevitably living through. My ultimate goal was to reach my 30th year as a strong, successful and serene being. I therefore collected every bit of energy in me into making this happen. I was determined to shine rather than conform to the “downhill” effect most folks fear when reaching 30. And to support the idea of glowing rather than greying, I was informed of the concept of one’s “golden birthday”, where the day of your birth aligns with your age, and magical moments arise. To my fortune and surprise, I was born on June 30th.
While looking forward to embracing Mr. Oliver’s advise to really live during my 30s, I decided to set a very defined 2-year plan for myself. I sought to complete a master’s degree prior to my 30th year celebration and expand my yoga practice to promote the idea of finding myself in the best physical shape of my life (yes, my life). In addition, I was seeking to implement and practice grace in everything I did, said, thought and became involved in. Grace meant stability in so many ways. Handling anything that life blew my way with complete objectivity, managing confrontations and less than positive moments with ease, and becoming a centered person in every sense was all I wanted.
I’ve since come to understand that finding grace is a lifelong endeavor, and as much as I try, it’s not a daily possibility (at least for me). However, what matters about this aspiration is that it continues to remain my ultimate goal, and though I may stumble more days than I’d like to admit, I strive to be gentle and forgiving when I falter, while remaining humble and grounded when I’m on top. Which brings me to the conclusion of my story. I’m 30, I’m learning, and I’m proud to say I’m humbled every single day. Learning and living are not mutually exclusive. They are able to coexist in the same way we are able to coexist with individuals, emotional situations, and environmental factors. To add to my virtue, I can say that where I find myself at 30 is not where society wants me to be, nor where my pride led me towards. I’ve learned that to be happy we don’t have to fit in, we don’t have to be comfortable, and we don’t have to make money. And isn’t that the true definition of living?
About Laura:
User Experience Researcher in the Seattle area. On her free time, you can find her amidst friends and in one yoga pose or another.

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Top 3 Benefits of Being 30

In Great Articles Found Doing Research on October 29, 2012 at 09:43


For a woman, her 30th birthday is like a transition from one period to another. In these three decades she has been a toddler, a child, a teenager and a young woman. She has seen so much of the world and had so many opinions about almost everything around her. Now here she is, still young, beautiful and most of all she is mature now. So, turning 30 can trigger a lot of emotions for you and to say the good news, most of these emotions are comparatively positive. Here are the benefits of being 30.

1. You are comfortable in your own skin

We all remember that when we were teenagers, we always wanted to be someone else. For instance, you wanted to be the most beautiful and popular girl in your school or you wanted to be the most intelligent student with straight As. But you ended up being yourself because that is what you are. In your early twenties you might have been dissatisfied with your job, salary or the type of life you were living but have you realized that with the passage of time, you have simply begun to love your life. It is not time that has done this magic, but it is the maturity that you have obtained with age that has helped you realize your true self.

2. You have a sense of independence and responsibility

If you are 30 and single, then you must have realized how advantageous this period is for you. Now, no one looks at you as being young and immature. In fact, this is the period where you attain the self-confidence and the independence to lead your life as you wish. You have committed your share of mistakes and have learnt a great a deal about your life.

3. You become more stable

Gone are the days when you used to change your job just like your shoes and clothes. After turning 30, you have realized that it’s been more than 5 years in the same office and you haven’t even considered once about changing your current job. You are sticking to your job because over the course of time, you have learnt the art of stability and adaptability. You are no longer a confused young woman who does not know what she wants from life, instead you are in a position where you exactly know what you want.


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