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I Don’t Need New Year’s Resolutions. This Is Why.

In Lifestyle, News, Spirituality on January 4, 2016 at 11:44

This post is an adapted excerpt from our upcoming book, ‘Now That I Am in My Thirties’. I would appreciate your constructive feedback. Stay tuned for the launch!

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Years ago, I found myself writing my New Year’s Resolutions. I was twenty-seven, newlywed, trying to position a boutique communications agency. I felt it was the perfect time to put in order all the areas in my life. I wrote a long and explicit list. After reading it over and over for a full year, I realized I was not only planning for a year, I was planning for a decade therefore I didn’t write any resolutions for the following year, and decided to stick to my decade-long plan.

2012 was different, because I was turning thirty. Revising my previous resolutions with the intention of updating them, not to balance them out, I understood I had not only planned for one or two years or a decade, I had planned for a lifetime.

I did have a lot of goals, but surprisingly, they were not exceptionally ambitious, and they didn’t have a deadline. It was not a checklist or a bucket list. Fortunately, most of them were life changing, but within reach: Maintenance for my soul as they were all toward a simpler, better and happier life as a grown up woman.

Therefore, for my thirtieth birthday, the only amendment done was consolidating all my goals, into one: Endeavor myself fully and devote my life to what matters most to me now.

I knew I was not the only one looking at life differently during this time. Friends from all around the world were invited to share their own experiences getting closer to thirty and being 30+/up to thirty-nine. This blog was set up. Research had to be done. Expert Contributors were approached. I never imagined such positive and massive response. Yet a book was not on anybody’s list; it emerged as part of this inspiring collective breakthrough.

This is not a travel blog, but it is a real life road trip “story”. We write nonfiction, even though some of the topics and changes we experience in our thirties sounded like fiction for us not long ago. It’s not biographical even though many true-life stories are told here, including mine and yours. Now that I am a thirtysomething year old, my goal is for us to use this blog and upcoming book as a reference to understand and embrace better what we are going through. I hope you find it somehow informational but I am not trying to persuade you in any wayit’s not a procedure manualit’s just a pure narrative: Personal experiences running our life all the way to our thirties and beyond!

2016 is in our hands now.

Let’s make it the year that we BECOME our BEST selves.

I am in.

Hope you are too.

Who loves you tons?

Laura

P. S.: What about you? What are your New Year’s Resolutions? We’d love to know and support you all the way!

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2014 Won’t Be Over Until…

In Career, Family, Finances, Lifestyle, Quotes, Relationships, Spirituality on December 15, 2014 at 16:38

…I have the chance to catch up with all of you!

I have tons of things to tell you about. I am happy to let you know that I am back, charged with positivism, fresh ideas and newfound energy to share with you.

My last post was a bit melancholic and bittersweet. Thankfully, some time has passed since then.

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That is why, without planning, I just had two great months, with the only downside of being away from you and the blogosphere. Thinking about you all day, but being respectful of the time and attention that my clients were paying for.

Business and family affairs took me to some of my favorite places on Earth. Ordinary but productive errands consumed the time in-between.

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Or to those who pray I like to add. Love and magic reveal when we close our eyes, open our heart, express our wishes and take the time to observe humbly.

While we wait, there is still time to take a look at our goals for 2014 and give them a last try. We have fifteen more days to go, before we move them to the 2015 list. Never forget them, just reschedule.

Before we kiss 2014 goodbye, I am taking a moment to look back and think how I would like to remember 2014.

8 facts that I will never forget about this year:

  1. Marked the end of an era in my career.
  2. Kicked me out of my comfort zone.
  3. Inspired me to reconnect with my most genuine talents and ambitions.
  4. Reminded me the fragility of happiness.
  5. Taught me that if I want something to happen, I must be willing to do it myself.
  6. Challenged the resilience of my heart.
  7. Showed me how much I can give.
  8. Kept giving me reasons to be forever grateful.

That was my 2014.

How was yours?

What did you experience this year? What touched you? What did you learn?

How would you like to remember 2014?

Hope you had a meaningful one!

Here’s to us!

Laura

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6 Steps to Achieve Your Goals

In Career, Family, Finances, Health, Lifestyle, Relationships, Spirituality on May 8, 2014 at 09:00
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…It does! Let’s make the best out of it!

Would you like to take a look on my agenda? Or the recent notes on my pad?

You wouldn’t need to read between the lines to realize that these days I find myself experiencing random moments, feeling mixed emotions on a constant basis. My ongoing to-do list, the tags on this blog, the outline of our upcoming book or the bookmarks on my laptop, everything reflects how varied is this stage of my life.

As much as work and unproductive distractions try to dominate the scene, there is much more out there and, most importantly, inside us. It is always important to keep in touch with all the relevant pieces of life that genuinely matter to us.

Writing a sympathy letter, fundraising for your favorite cause, requesting sponsorships for an entrepreneurial project, applying for that dream job, listening to that heartbroken friend, giving unsolicited advice to that teenager, remembering deadlines, anniversaries and birthdays, juggling your day-to-day with lifetime projects, keeping yourself updated about your interests and current news, while staying in shape and saneOverwhelming, indeed, but it’s worth it. Everything shows that you care, not only about you, but also about others, and caring is the first move for giving and receiving love.

How can we do that?

I invite you to try this empirical exercise:

1. First, let’s divide our lives in areas.

Relationships, spirituality, health, lifestyle, career, financeswhat would you add? Be aware that there might be aspects of your life that you are not taking into consideration and that might be just what you are missing.

Bonus Tip: If you need help or ideas to start, check out the goal-setting application Mindbloom, our dear contributor Laura Barboza introduced me to it years ago, and I cannot thank her enough.

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…It does! Let’s make the best out of it!

 2. Establish your priorities.

What goes first on your list? Yourself? God? Family? Work? Your partner? What are your big rocks?

What can’t you afford to lose? What can you live without? What is not negotiable? What is urgent? What could wait?

It’s never too late to start prioritizing in life, but ensure you begin  before you learn some  lessons the  hard way.

 3. Set specific goals for each area of your life.

 Be healthy, spend more time with my loved ones, be more productive, get rid of debtOur goals are often  broad, take long to achieve and are difficult to measure. Set more specific goals with close deadlines that  will take us where we want step-by-step while keeping us motivated with little triumphs along the way.

Bonus Tip: I also use apps to achieve my specific goals, from drinking more water (Water Break) to limiting my distractions online (Self-Control).

4. Identify the habits that serve your purposes.

Examine your everyday routine and answer: What do you spend your time, energy and attention on? Are you investing them in a beneficial and positive way? Are your current habits aligned to your purposes? If the answer to the last three questions is yes: Kudos! Keep going! If your answer is no, start reducing or eliminating those activities and substitute them with new habits that get you closer to your goals. Often, we don’t even enjoy certain habits, but we have had them for so long that we don’t realize their negative impact on us. Let’s be honest and complete the blank: We can live without____________________.

5. Plan your day and include one action towards each goal.

Now that we have established our priorities, set specific goals and identified the habits that we need to keep or eliminate, let’s take action and create opportunities to improve. How can we make our day better? What can we start doing today to change our lives? Let’s start right now! Breathe, stretch, choose to call instead of text, be proactive at work, pick a healthier selection for your next meal, find information about that project that you want to volunteer for, put that dollar bill in your piggy bank instead of the vending machine, ignore the urge to check your cell phone in publiceverything counts!

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…It does! Let’s make the best out of it!

6. Check often, be flexible, adjust, and celebrate!

Change doesn’t happen overnight, therefore during our journey to become and live better, we need to reflect and check how we are doing. If the results are not the expected ones, don’t quit. Be flexible, start again and keep going. Add or delete items from your list based on your current needs.

In case you find yourself checking off some of your goals alreadyCongrats! Be grateful and celebrate! Whoop! Whoop!

I recommend you these six steps because I have tried them and they work for me.

I feel better now, living a fuller life after adding the positive details that I craved for years and I keep looking, because no matter how full we think our jar of life is, there is always room for improvement.

 How do you do it? Do you have other ideas? I would love to know, please comment below.

Your tireless cheerleader,

Laura

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